Hung up and held back

The accepted definition of “addiction” in the medical community is “continued use in spite of negative consequences.”

Now combine that with Conversations with God’s definition:  We experience addiction when the absence of something in our life renders us unable to experience joy and happiness.

Let’s look at humanity’s addiction to our story.

What is “story”?  Story is a tool the ego uses to protect the small us, the physical sense of who we are.  An observation of mine is that most beings are living in a distorted reality as a result of our ego protecting what it has made up about what it imagines we are lacking.  We then take that out into the world, either silently or quite loudly.  Some of us sneak through life quietly, hoping to not be noticed due to our story that we are simply not good enough; others have to be the center of attention, the loudest person in the room, for fear that they, too, will be seen as insufficient.  We all know the person who is always ready to knock someone else down in order to prop themselves up.

We have all heard someone tell stories like, “I would have gotten the promotion, but my boss doesn’t like people who are taller than him” or “Jane broke up with me because she didn’t like how I say what is on my mind” or “The cops had it in for me because I have tattoos.”

Is that person really higher up or more evolved than the rest of us, therefore deserving of their self-created pedestal?  Is anyone greater or less than another?  Are we addicted to our separation?  Are our hang-ups holding us back from experiencing life in all its grandness?

Why is it that many of us tend to hide behind a story?  A reason for why we act the way we act?  Are we really just acting out our lives  here in this grand illusion to protect ourselves from some unforeseen danger?

What makes some people rise above their story?  What is your story and when will you change it or, at the very least, challenge it?  What would it look like if you did this?  What would the world look like if we all managed to get out from under our self- imposed prisons?

By now almost everyone has heard the saying “The truth will set you free,” yet not too many people are willing to tell the truth even to themselves.  Does the truth hurt or does it truly open us to more freedom and joy?

(Kevin McCormack may be reached at Kevin@TheGlobalConversation.com)

 

 

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4 responses to “Hung up and held back”

  1. mewabe Avatar
    mewabe

    Isn’t everything a story, a choice and a creation of the human mind?

    For example, let’s see how we choose to perceive the divine: looking at nature we could say that the divine is in the lamb…meek, gentle and loving. Or that it is in the wolf, aggressive and without pity. Or we could choose to say that it is in both, and obviously much greater than both.
    The consequences of our choice, each one of which is “true” if perhaps incomplete, will cause us to make other choices and to express a specific worldview and way of being.

    And here may be the problem for those who do seek “the truth”: none of us can “see” the divine in its entirety…we can only perceive and understand aspects of divinity that resonate with who we are or with the focus we have at any particular moment.

    So the objective reality of oneness, which characterizes divinity and the whole of creation, is destined to remain somewhat abstract, an ideal and a model for us, as we are not yet equipped, mentally, to actually “see” it all, except in rare and short-lived mystical experiences, and even these are subjective, and consequently limited by subjectivity as are all human experiences.

    About self-created pedestals, isn’t everything self-created? Is there really any truth in the way people present themselves to the world and to each other, particularly when they believe that they should recreate themselves, create a grander version of who they are?

    In other words is there any truth in human expression aside from absolute spontaneity, from totally spontaneous and authentic expression? Are thoughts control and truth compatible? Is the desire to be something more even compatible with who a person is? And isn’t the desire to be something more, to express the next grandest version of the greatest vision we ever held about who we are rooted in the perception that the self in its present condition and expressions is too small? Is such perception accurate?

    Isn’t spontaneous growth a form of expansion of self (towards a grander version) that is innately truer and preferable?…The one that, not originating in judgment, does not contradict unconditional love but originates from it?

    (I am sorry I have a bad habit of questioning things, but I do not mean to offend…)

  2. Buzz Avatar
    Buzz

    How can we effectively focus the law of attraction to achieve positive outcomes for situations and
    circumstances that are built on negativity and have no antonymous terminology or conceivable solutions?

  3. Carol Mickelsen Avatar
    Carol Mickelsen

    This is a very self centered way, this “law of attraction,” and all this talk and seeking about fulfilling “self,” and experiencing more and better of everything. It is a New Age fad, and although I bought into it for a while, I have found it to be an empty and meaningless way of seeing the world and our part in it. I am finding I much prefer the Buddhist or Hindu philosophies now. Here is an example: ~ Lama Christie Mcnally says….
    “Everyone around us is searching: searching for a way to make this life meaningful, searching for a way to be happy. Every single move we ever make is done for this one goal. But nothing we ever do to try and make ourselves happy ever brings us happiness.
    If you want to be happy yourself, learn to live your life for others. If you want to be fulfilled, devote yourself to making other people happy. This is the one and only way to happiness.” Service to others is the ONLY way to a fulfilled, meaningful and happy life.

  4. mewabe Avatar
    mewabe

    Much of the new age you speak of, Carol, is, indeed, about self-centered and spoiled individuals realizing that the crass materialism their culture offers is not fulfilling, yet still trying to fill this inner emptiness with something…

    Native Americans view them as children…lost…having no connection to real life, the products of a culture that is disconnected from spiritual realities.

    Happiness comes with togetherness, with belonging, with community, and community springs from cooperation, not the merciless competition that leads to alienation and exploitation and is ruining our human world and the earth itself.

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